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You finished the briefing. This is the part that stays in your pocket.
The manipulator’s first target is never your behavior. It’s your confidence in your own memory.
A Machiavellian doesn’t need to lie to you. They just need to control what you know.
“Urgency is not evidence. I’ll decide after I’ve looked at the facts.”
+ every other rule, script and protocol from the book
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