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The manipulator’s first target is never your behavior. It’s your confidence in your own memory.

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A Machiavellian doesn’t need to lie to you. They just need to control what you know.

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“Urgency is not evidence. I’ll decide after I’ve looked at the facts.”

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The 3-Minute Profiler by Arthur Sterling

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The 3-Minute Profiler: a 20-page quick-start guide to reading people in the first three minutes of any encounter.

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